My name is Kelly, Jay’s mom, and I want to share a little about my 17 year old son who passed Aug. 3, 2009, only one month before his 18th birthday. Jay was the absolute light of my life, my husband, Steve, his brother Zach and sister Zoey. Jay graduated with honors in May, and he was planning on attending UT Martin on two scholarships in late August. He had a job for the last two years and was looking forward to moving on to the new chapter of his life. Unfortunately, that day never came. Instead of moving him into his dorm room, we planned a funeral and buried Jay. He died playing “the choking game.” The choking game is a game good and smart kids play not understanding the deadly effects. Jay and I were as close as two people could be. We talked in length every day, I was interested in his “business,” and I love my kids! I now know that wasn’t enough involvement. Although I do not have the answers, I am trying to understand and educate myself on these games. I will love Jay forever, and I hope this message reaches as many parents as possible to save at least one person from dying and one parent from the pain my family has endured and will continue to feel for a lifetime. I will love you forever, Jay! Love, mom!